Watching someone you care about struggle with porn addiction can be difficult. Whether it’s your partner, sibling, or friend, knowing how to help — without judgement — can make all the difference.
Understand the Nature of Porn Addiction
Porn addiction is a behavioural condition, often tied to emotional or psychological struggles. It isn’t about lack of love, attraction, or commitment. Support starts with understanding, not blame.
Signs Someone May Be Struggling
- Withdrawing from relationships or responsibilities
- Becoming secretive or defensive
- Escalating irritability or shame
- Disinterest in real-life intimacy
How to Offer Support
Open a Non-Judgemental Conversation
Let them know you’re concerned and there to help. Use “I” statements to reduce defensiveness. For example:
“I’ve noticed you seem more distant lately, and I want to support you if something’s going on.”
Encourage Them to Seek Help
You can guide them towards:
- Therapists who specialise in porn or sex addiction
- Helplines or online platforms
- Digital tools or recovery programmes
Set Healthy Boundaries
It’s okay to protect your emotional wellbeing. Support doesn’t mean enabling harmful behaviours.
Tools and Resources for Partners and Families
- Relate – Offers counselling for couples and families
- Phalcelt – Provides discreet online access to professional guidance
- S-Anon UK – Support groups for people affected by someone else’s sex or porn addiction
Moving Forward Together
Supporting a loved one through recovery can be challenging, but your compassion and consistency matter. With patience, honest communication, and the right tools, healing is possible — both for them and your relationship.
